Discovering Me

Me on having babies, losing babies, trying to have babies and hoping to bring this one home.

Thursday, October 20, 2005

Catherine

You have nothing for which to apologize.

Hugs,
M

2 Comments:

  • At 2:27 PM , Blogger Catherine said...

    Thanks. But I'm still sorry. I should've stuck with my first instinct to not comment at all. Your post made me sad for you. The comment that anyone not staying home is "shuffling their child off"...well...quite honestly...it pissed me off. The implication that children cannot be happy just because their mother can't stay home...that they will be "sad and hollow"...is unbelievable. The idea that you are somehow not doing what is best for your child so you can go out to eat or drive a newer car is the kind of judgment I THOUGHT enlightened women left behind a long time ago. You were obviously already feeling bad, and it irritated me that any commenter (be it a lifelong friend or not), would feel it necessary to add and extra burden to what you were already carrying.

    If your finances are anything like ours, your working is a necessity. No, it's not perfect...and it's not even the way you want it...but I KNOW you are doing everything you can to provide for your family in the best way you can. You should be able to feel sad about what you miss without being made to feel guilty on top of it. I've missed moments with Sam too. But I can provide a house and food that I otherwise wouldn't be able to provide. I wish I could be there for the moments...but not at the cost of being homeless and hungry. And for ANYONE to make judgments about me, without recognizing WHY I do what I do...well...they can take a flying leap for all I care.

    **and no...never get on my bad side...I'm half Polish and we know how to rant and rave with the best of 'em. :o)

     
  • At 9:10 AM , Blogger R said...

    Hi guys,

    Michelle, I have read your blog for a long time and have just now commented. I really feel like I know you all even though I haven't been through the losing a baby that you all have been through. I was pregnant with twins and miscarried one at 16 weeks, then was told the other would die shortly after delivery. She proved all of those doctors wrong. She is 8 months old now.

    I have kept up with your blog for a long time and am astounded by your courage. I can really relate to alot of the worries you have. Thanks for putting your voice out there.

    And what GORGEOUS names for your 2 precious, precious daughters!

    Rachel

     

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